by DEBBIE MONTANDON
With Valentine’s Day over, I was thinking, it would be good if we could be nice all year long.
It seems that we deal with negative people every day, either in what they say or what they do. Many times, it is directed specifically at a person or a group of people.
We need to ask ourselves, ”How would I feel if someone said this about me?”
When I was a child, we used to play a game called gossip. We lined up, and the first
person whispered something into the person’s ear beside them. They turned to the next person and whispered what they thought they heard.
I say, “what they thought they heard,” because many times they did not hear it correctly, or it wasn’t said correctly. This went on down the chain of people.
The last person would say out loud what they think they were told. There was a lot of laughter, because it rarely was close to the truth.
Many times, this is what is going on today.
My mom used to tell me that when someone says something about another person, go to the person and ask them if it is true. Do not believe it just because it was said.
As a mom, I raised my sons the same way. If they came home and someone had said something that was not known to be true, I would say, “Go to the person.” If it ended up being a lie, I personally went back to the person to confront them about that lie.
Even in our childhood movies, we learn this message from Bambi’s mom: “If you can’t say something nice, don’t say anything at all.” If only everyone could practice that.
What kind of world would we create if we all practiced this?
As I think of a way to close this thought, I have to ask myself, how do I live up to this opinion? As I look back on my life, I know there were times when I did not live up to it, and for this I am ashamed. I pray that I was able to say, “I am sorry” to the one or ones I hurt.
How would this would be if when we meet people, we would say, “I know something good about you,” and we treated people just that way?
What kind of world would be created if we shook hands and you could tell by the hand shake that there was a truthful assurance of friendship?
Wouldn’t life be much happier if the good in all of us is what people could think about and talk about?
These things may seem impossible at first, but it is up to us to make it happen. No one can do it alone. We have to decide if we are willing to try. You would be doing the world a favor by practicing, “I know something good about you, and you know something good about me.”