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Former sex slave recalls nightmare she lived

[Editors note: this article contains adult material and is a true story.]

Never in her wildest dreams would she have thought it would happen to her. Once a sex slave, Sally Richardson now uses her trauma to help others.

Human trafficking is believed to be the third largest criminal activity in the world. In January 2013, Richardson’s worst nightmare would come true.

Human trafficking is when a person is forced to engage in sex acts through force, fraud or coercion.

Some think that something like that couldn’t happen to someone they know. It happens all over the world, as women and children are forced into sex acts for money or for work.

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Sally Richardson, a survivor of human trafficking, is travelling around the United States to help other survivors and victims. Photos courtesy of Sally Richardson

Richardson’s nightmare began shortly after she met her husband, who turned out to be her trafficker. They met online and began dating. She began working for her trafficker at his regular job with no pay, and then shortly after, he started to traffic her for sex.

I ended up marrying my trafficker for a brief period, and he exploited and trafficked me between January 2013 – August 2014,” said Richardson. “I also suffered severe domestic abuse.”

e93a04_0226bd3cfac5489b8874ca62bed51ede~mv2.pngRichardson was awakened by her then husband one night and told to get up and cover up her ugliness. He then drove her to a hotel, told her a room number, slammed the car door and drove off.

“It was that moment when the car door slammed that my boyfriend became my trafficker,” said Richardson.

Anytime she would beg not to go, the more violent her trafficker would become, and the worse the abuse would get.

Richardson’s trafficker would take photos of her for the ads that he would use to “sell” her. There are guys in towns that will take pictures of girls in hotel beds to be sold, according to Richardson.

Richardson’s trafficker took her to meet guys all over the Midwest and South Dakota. Richardson said she would take pictures of billboards and signs, waiting for the right time to call for help.

Anytime she would show signs of wanting to leave or tried to leave, her trafficker would threaten to harm himself. This is how they manipulate their victims into not leaving, or seeking help, according to Richardson.

“I remember one night having to perform CPR for 47 minutes until the rescue team arrived at the “hell house” that I lived at for two years,” said Richardson.

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At the time of the abuse, her two daughters were living with them, including one who was pregnant at the time.  Richardson would spend time wondering if her and her daughters were going to live or survive. Her trafficker tried to make them get rid of the baby that her daughter was pregnant with, but they never did.

“Nothing mattered to my trafficker,” recalls Richardson. “I was nothing but a source of income for him to display at his day job. Then at night I would become his slave.”

It took Richardson seven months of going through a hellish divorce before she would be somewhat free from her trafficker. Even though she was divorced from him, it still didn’t mean that she would not suffer from PTSD, anxiety, or OCD. At times, it can be very hard for her to leave the comfort of her home.

“I never know what might trigger a PTSD episode, and knowing that I can’t control when or where it strikes,” said Richardson.

She spends most of her time with her therapist and trying to help others who have been or are going through what she has been through. It is a self-healing process to help others.

18527765_1199506826844272_5638228082999227299_n“It hasn’t been easy, this journey of mine,” said Richardson. “I often weep. I weep because I know what it is to truly lose everything that each and every one takes for granted on a daily basis. I weep for the loss of all my freedoms. I weep because of the long, lonely road I have traveled. I weep because I was lucky enough to escape from my trafficker, but there are still so many who are still trapped and suffering their silent HELL called Human Trafficking and Domestic Abuse. Mostly, I weep because I know what a treacherous journey I still have ahead of me.”

On October 3, 2016, Richardson’s attorney argued on her behalf in front of the Supreme Court in South Dakota.

With Richardson’s testimony, South Dakota passed laws in order to help end human trafficking in the state.

HB1118 eliminates the need to prove the use of force, fraud, or coercion in the human trafficking of minors, passed both the South Dakota House and Senate with unanimous approval and signed into law by Governor Dennis Daugaard on March 10, 2017.

Also, SB102 requires “that the name and telephone number of an organization fighting to end sex trafficking be given, in writing, to any woman seeking an abortion.” It passed both the South Dakota House and Senate with just one nay vote. It was signed into law by Governor Daugaard on March 10, 2017.

After she helped the two bills to be passed into law, Richardson knew she didn’t want to stop there. She needed to help as many survivors as she could. Richardson and Lynn DiSanto, a psychologist and friend, then created https://www.fightingagainsttrafficking.org.

“I know I have a long journey ahead of me and a constant battle ahead of me,” said Richardson. “But I will help as many people along the way as I can till I have to pass the torch.”

For more information, you can visit https://www.fightingagainsttrafficking.org

Practice safe sex with free contraceptives

As I was browsing on Facebook recently, I saw a picture of an order number showing that the state of Texas was offering contraceptives for free, along with free shipping.

You can also get lubrication and dental dams added to your order. The state of Texas is using a website called www.texaswearscondoms.com, where you can get up to 50 free items sent to any address in Texas. The state of Texas started this for its residents since the risk of acquiring a sexually transmitted disease (STD) has gone up in the past few years, especially among high school and college students.   

On the website, there is a lot of good information that everybody should take advantage of, such as tips for knowing how to give consent to your partner for having intercourse. The website offers a lot of helpful information, such as the right way to put on a contraceptive and the right way to have a healthy sex life. There is another tab to help identify the symptoms of the many STDs, such as gonorrhea, chlamydia, herpes and syphilis.

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The site also provides information for where to get pap smears done, procedures and the reason why woman must have this done at least once a year. It also lists the locations of clinics across the state where you can receive STD or HIV screenings. It’s an amazing program which people should take advantage of to keep a healthy relationship with your partner and protect yourself.

Once you place your order, you will receive an email survey within 24 hours. After completing the survey, you will receive an order confirmation. Your order should arrive within 14 to 21 days. The program only sends these items to residents in Texas. These items are for personal use, not to resell, and only one order can be placed per month.

This is a great way to keep everybody protected, since I know many college students make excuses for not wearing protection or using contraceptives, such as not having enough money, being too embarrassed to go shop for them, or not knowing the right way to use them because of a lack of knowledge. I would really encourage people to at least visit the page and see if this will work out in the long run. Condoms are often used in sex education programs, because they have the capability to reduce the chances of pregnancy and the spread of some sexually transmitted diseases when used correctly. According to a 2000 report by the National Institutes of Health (NIH), consistent use of latex condoms reduces the risk of HIV/AIDS transmission by approximately 85 percent relative to risk when unprotected sex is happening.

It is really important to have a healthy sex life and be responsible for yourself and your surroundings. Therefore, I agree and support the website, a discrete way to get help and be informed.